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Sexual Abuse has enormous effects on the child which are usually carried over into adult hood. These effects can be resolved and overcome for the survivor. Read these pages for further information.

Peter who has worked with over 180 sexually abused women and men successfully in the last 18 months. Many say that it is very daunting to work with a man in such a sensitive area, but once they have gone through it, they say "WOW I was abused by a man and now I can get healing from a man. I did not know that was possible!!!! I have completely CHANGED MY LIFE AND AM NOW FINALLY ENJOYING A GOOD HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN. Even though you may be scared, I highly recommend it" Many say that, you owe it to yourself. Just try, you will be amazed.

The influence of pornography

The number of victims of childhood sexual abuse and molestation grows each year. This horrific crime is directly tied to the growth of pornography on the Internet. Studies conducted by the various organizations have shown that pornography is extremely influential in the actions of sex offenders and serial murders. Further, statistics show that 90 percent of the predators who molest children have had some type of involvement with pornography. According to research reveals that 77% of child molesters of boys and 87% of child molesters of girls admitted imitating the sexual behaviour they had seen in pornography they had watched.  Roughly 33% of girls and 14% of boys are molested before the age of 18, according to various state departments. Nearly 2/3 of all sexual assaults reported involved minors and roughly 1/3 involved children under the age of 12. In most cases, however, child molestation goes unreported. Estimates are that only a small percentage although some say that only 35% of sexual abuse is reported. Kids can be frightened or embarrassed and many times do not say anything.

The mere mention of child molestation strikes us with fear. Our first response is likely to be one of denial: this could never happen in my family - I don't have to be concerned about this in my community. We have been using denial, as individuals and as a society, to escape the truth, at great expense to our children.

We have more evidence to link pornography to sexual crimes against children than we do cigarette smoking to cancer. The Surgeon General's Report on Pornography and Public Health (1986) and the Final Report of the Attorney General's Commission on Pornography (1986) attest to the harms of pornography - as do numerous other studies by experts in the field. We have more outlets for hard core pornography than we do McDonald restaurants, and our 12 to 17 year old boys are among the biggest consumers.
Dr. Frederick Wortham, a psychiatrist who treats troubled children who have done terrible things, tells us that a child's mind is like a bank - what goes into it comes back ten years later with interest. We see this illustrated in the results of a Kansas City survey of high school students which revealed that 60% of the boys thought it was all right to rape a girl if they thought they were going to marry her.
We are reaping the harvest sown by pornography's consistent theme that reduces children and women to sexual toys - subservient to those able to control them. It bears repeating that 29% of victims of rape are less than 11 years old, another 32% between 11 and 17, and rape has risen 523% since 1960.

The following are just two of the cases which further demonstrate how pornography is poisoning the minds of our youth: A 10 year old boy raped and sodomized four younger children in an apartment complex. When asked by police where he got such an idea, the boy showed them his parent's pornography. One 16 year old boy was forced to seek counselling for an addiction to dial-a-porn. He came to his mother in tears, asking why she never warned him about the effects of pornography.


Since many children today spend time on the electronic superhighway "surfing the net," it is not surprising that child molesters go there to look for victims.

"Chat rooms," have become the "playgrounds" of the 90's. A molester engages a child in a chat-room by posing on-line as a child himself. Once an on-line relationship is established the molester will often suggest a conversation in a "private room," ie. a chat room for only two. Then language becomes sexually explicit, pornography can be transmitted electronically, and the relationship becomes abusive.

Although most information found on the Internet is helpful, the most deviant, perverse, and violent pornography is also available. Images that feed the minds of molesters and would-be molesters include everything from soft-core nudity to hard-core sex acts, bestiality with almost every animal on Noah's ark, torture and mutilation, defecation and urination on women and children for sexual pleasure, and child pornography. In addition there are stories that glorify sexual abuse of children. Playboy's Web site averages 5 million hits a day.
In addition to pornography freely available on the Web, there are over 1000 pornographic Bulletin Board Services.
 Pornographic CD-ROM's include not only live action pornography, but also games where the object is rape.

 Safeguarding Your Children:

  • Learn about computers so you can monitor your child's use.
  • Spend quality time with your children, thereby preventing them from depending on computer technology for recreation, communication, and companionship.
  • Keep the computer in a public area of the house.
  • Don't EVER allow a child to give out personal information on-line, not real name, address or phone number.
  • Don't allow a child to meet someone face-to-face they have met on-line.
  • Remember that people on-line may not be who they seem, a "12-year-old-girl" may actually be a 40 year old man.
  • Though they are not fool proof, consider purchasing and installing a pornography blocking software package such as CYBER sitter, Surf Watch, Cyber Patrol, Rated-PG or Net Nanny.
  • Periodically check the Web sites your children are visiting and look at files they are storing.

"You can no more leave your children alone to travel the information superhighway than you can leave them in Times Square in New York."
Len Munsil, Exec. Dir., National Family Legal Foundation


An epidemic of child molestation is spreading across this country as well as the rest of the world, yet few people are aware that 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 7 boys will be molested before age 18.  And molestation is never a one-time incident for the victim. Children do not get over molestation as they do a virus. We are a country populated by millions of adult victims who continue to bear the emotional scars of childhood sexual abuse, and the casualties of this generation of children increases daily.
We all sometimes live in a false sense of security until someone we love is affected by this scourge. Only then do many of us wake up and look around at what is possible around us. That is not to say that we must live in a fear mode, but if we knew what to look out for and knew what the telltale signs are we would be that much more empowered. We need to be aware of the following;

  • Molestation occurs in all income and racial groups, from infancy through adulthood.
  • The majority of molesters are known by their victims.
  • You may never know that your child is a victim.
  • Children are not likely to lie about sexual abuse.
  • Children do not outgrow the traumatic effects of molestation – they have to be processed.
  • Children become adults and unless the molestation is dealt with it will haunt them in all future relationships – they cant help it.

Rape Survey
The 1992 rape survey conducted by the National Victim Centre (USA) reported that 29% of all rapes occurred when the victim was less than eleven years old, another 32% occurred between the ages of 11 and 17.

Sexual Abuse has enormous effects on the child which are usually carried over into adult hood. These effects can be resolved and overcome for the survivor. Read these pages for further information.